Read more about how to get a girl friend here.

3. Pretend to be someone else.

Time to get past all the negative shit and just accept it – she’s with him and not you and you’re not privy to their relationship. It has NOTHING to do with you and your relationships (or lack there of) and it’s a total waste of time to think negatively about it or them. We look at the girl, we see the guy she’s with, and we automatically assume he must be a jerk – and we don’t even know him, her, or how the relationship even got started. Forget about sex.

The right way to approach getting a girlfriend is to see yourself as being good enough and then back that up, by making women feel attracted to you as you talk to them. Yes, that can work with some women, but with most attractive women that you meet, their dream is to be able to meet a guy who makes them feel like they need to live up to his expectations. They meet an attractive woman, they start to fall in love with her right away and they really want to get to be her boyfriend. You don’t need to ask her questions like, “So, are you looking for a boyfriend right now? ” because a woman will almost always say “No” or say that she’s not sure or say that she’s just enjoying life and has no plans on settling down.

If you settle too quickly you WILL revert back to your older self and you WILL lose the girl and then have to start all over again. If you settle too early it’s highly likely you’re going to screw it up sooner or later anyways. Getting a girlfriend is NOT getting the next “hot” girlfriend you see. Let’s say you land some hot girl by your side and she’s seems really into you – without blowing it entirely with you (you can keep her around to date) but until you’re ready do NOT settle down with her. Make yourself ready and be prepared to do things and say things you’ve never done before.

Your good advice didn’t help and the personal stories at the end detailing how after a daunting 5 year search you found her at Starbucks felt like a knife in my back. They wouldn’t even humor me. Not even for a second. You must be something special then. You have qualities and skills that I just don’t have.

• With the best intentions I must inform you that no girl likes me.
• If you don’t know how to talk to girls, you won’t be able to connect deeply enough to have a relationship with them.
• It cannot be learned or explained.
• For instance, hang out with her friends as a group.
• You don’t analyse, you don’t judge, you listen.
• ” because a woman will almost always say “No” or say that she’s not sure or say that she’s just enjoying life and has no plans on settling down.

You can have all the fundamentals down and be a super cool guy. But if you don’t know how to fuck a girl the right way, don’t expect any girls to stick around for long… at least, not any high quality girls. Flirting is the way you arouse a girl’s interest and make her picture the two of you together romantically.

3. Let her be the one who is trying to get you to commit

You will be able to tell fast from her reaction whether you’re gong to have a “next” encounter or not. Talk to her about shared interests while on your outing. Be respectful to her by opening doors and not trying to move too fast to get to a physical relationship. Instead, let her give you queues about what she’s comfortable with.

Every girl is at least a little crazy some of the time. Women are more emotional than us men, and they like to argue emotionally. Plus, the hotter she is, the more she’ll usually test you by doing seemingly crazy shit.

When you read The Flow or listen to The Flow on Audio, you will know what to say and do at each step of the way with a woman so you don’t get stuck. So, if you want to bring out that side of her, make sure that you make her feel a lot of attraction for you, get to a kiss, have sex with her and then don’t push for a relationship. So, the way that you have to approach it is to make her feel sexually attracted to you, get to a kiss, get to sex and then make sure that you’re not trying to push for a committed relationship.

Don’t come up with a vague proposal of a plan or give her too many options to choose from so nothing gets established. Simply come up with a good date idea; one where you can speak and get to know each other properly (like a drink or a coffee) and give her a time and a place. Present her with a concrete plan she can’t refuse. When you know what you want, and don’t want, in a relationship, this puts you into the role of the selector.